Solo Travels: Day 2 – Vega

‘Sup from København!

My day started late. Got out of bed at 10am, opened the curtains to see that it was snowing! I mean I knew it was bound to happen so wasn’t that surprised and just because it’s a different place doesn’t make me like snow any more.

Anyway I ate somewhere new today. Café Emma. They make the best hot chocolate I’m being serious. I mean if this is brunch what’s breakfast and dinner like? I have to go back.

If you’re ever in Copenhagen, I’d recommend at least going once.

Afterwards I got on a hop on hop off tour bus. My plan was to get down and explore but boy that snow was not playing around, therefore I was not playing around either.

So I stayed in the warm bus and took pictures from the window.

Oh, one thing I realised from the other day is all the mermaid things they had in the gift shop. Realised it was because of this Little Mermaid statue.

I’m not really fond of statues, I have a phobia of them, so I’m surprised I got off the bus to take a picture of this whilst the snow was trying to devour my face. Not only that but I had to run in the snow before the bus left otherwise it was another 45 minutes wait for the next one.

One thing I was excited to see was a lake freezing over. I’ve only ever seen this happen in movies so it was nice to see in real life.

After the tour I came home and started getting ready for the Ella Mai concert. Which is the actual reason I wanted to come here. I couldn’t go whilst she was in Manchester or London because it was exam, dissertation and assignment season and I was trying to pass my module haha.

Once I was ready I made my way there. Guys honestly I can’t say it enough, I chose the best location to stay!

From my place it was 11 minutes by bus and 20 minutes by foot. I walked it, only because the guy said it was 10 minutes away. He lied! Add 10 on top mate.

I got there and was amazed to see a cloakroom! They don’t have this in the M.E.N that’s for sure. For 25k (£2.95!!) you can put your stuff away.

Anyway that’s not the best bit. There were no seats! I know that doesn’t sound that great but there was none of that “I wish I got a floor ticket so I could be closer” feeling because I was closer!! I had the floor ticket!! I didn’t know that I did, but I did!!

Time for the actual show. An artist named Jvck James the opening act and oh my days. The lungs on this guy … so amazing. He had the best energy, joking about with the audience as he sang and he’s 20 years old.

I’ve added a few videos onto my Copenhagen highlight on my Instagram if you want to check that out. Better yet go and check him out he’s awesome!!

His names highlighted so you have no excuse. Anyway, anyway, as I was posting the first video of Jvck (it’s highlighted again so you better click on his name mate!) I looked around the stage only to see Vic Jamieson!! He’s a guitarist and married to artist A*M*E. Couldn’t take a great picture of him because he was right under those purple lights.

When I say this was the best night, it was the best night. It was surprise after surprise.

And then the lady we were all waiting for Ella Mai! She was AWESOME!!

And she looked beautiful.

She looked amazing under purple light.

And I don’t think I’ve ever crushed on a woman so hard.

Yup. I feel it. I’m fan girling. Man, feels like I’m 15 again but instead of Chris Brown it’s Ella freakin’ Mai !!

Her band was great. Her singers brilliant and she … she was just amazing!

She sang all the songs from her album, Ella Mai!

Ok quick top 5 Ella Mai songs, in order:

  1. Sauce
  2. Trip
  3. Boo’d up
  1. Naked
  2. Run my mouth.

Right moving on. When the beautiful Ella left the stage, I also left. I walked out the doors and saw a black man talking with a few other people.

I looked at his face and said “nah not him” then I looked at the clothing he was wearing and I was like “oh my goodness it’s him!” It was Jvck Jones!!! Just chilling with a drink and two of his mates. I walked over to him and spoke to him then turned around and realised one of his mates was friggin Vic Jamieson!!

I took a picture with them using their friends phone, because my storage with friggin full, which I semi feel like I should have asked him to send it to me right there and then but I was too worried about the cloakroom queue [ugh Farielle you annoy me sometimes].

We actually had a good chat and I really can’t stop smiling.

I haven’t stopped smiling since I got to Manchester Airport but now I’m smiling even more because it was the best night ever.

Tonight was great. And I swear when I get that picture I will put it up on here honestly. Oh my days it was such a great night.

Here I was thinking I’d just be seeing Ella Mai and possibly falling in love with new music with Jvck James (which I definitely did), only to meet the man himself and Vic Jamieson.

I’m done.

Today has been wonderful.

Copenhagen you’ve actually been the best snowy holiday to date. I love you. I love Copenhagen.

But guys imagine if I had gone to London or Manchester, I wouldn’t have gotten to see them. Flip sake! I’m so happy right now.

It’s midnight here right now so I’m going to call it a night.

I love you all for reading.

That’s all she wrote … but she could write more but she won’t bore you.

F A R I E L L E. N

Guys it was the best night of 2019 so far!! Hands down!

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Day 12: Fear … less

Happy New Years you all!! ❤️🥳✨

I hope you’ve all entered the New Year with better intentions, more exciting plans and a positive attitude.

I know I have.

This has been an eventful series, might do more of these.

I enjoyed sharing and seeing what you guys thought about them.

After all that has been written in this series they were all leading to this. The real inspiration for this series.

I had enough of overthinking everything and missing out, enough of being in the same position constantly. All of the things that I spoke about were based on fears.

One most potent fear was never being enough.. for others.

I was always trying to do my best for other people, barely ever myself until this year when I had enough of that stupid mentality I have!

For 2019 I am going to fear less, and do what I want to do because I want to do it!

For 2019 I want us all to fear less and be our wonderful selves without worrying what other people are going to think about you. It’s not about them.

It’s all about you!

Go live that life of yours to the fullest!

And this concludes my 12 Days of New Years Resolutions! I honestly had so much fun writing them.

I pray for everything wonderful to come your way this year, good luck on all of your future endeavours. I love you all!!

That’s all she wrote

F A R I E L L E N.

Day 11: Best of 2018

Boy … 2018.

What a year it’s been. Truthfully? It wasn’t the best year but whilst sorrow was hovering around me happiness found its way through every now and again. These are my 2018 best bits.

1. I went all natural!! Cut my hair so I’m still in love with it. ❤️ I just need to it grow a bit longer, I have a goal.

2. I got a nose piercing! It didn’t last long because it kept getting caught on my glasses and I didn’t know how to put it back on 😔 that was kind of a sad/irritating week for me.

3. I was finally brave enough to cry coloured hair! I had blue and later purple extensions that I bought from @shopcatface and they were gawj, definitely going to look at different colours for next year.

4. I went on a summer holiday with my family to Mallorca 🇪🇸. A holiday where for the first time ever we were tourists and did not have to visit anyone whilst there. (My brother was there too but never really there when we were taking pics)

5. I started my blog … again. I did start one before a few years back but I never continued it, too afraid of the outcome I guess. But so far so good.

6. I went to my first gig!! Will always be the highlight of my November. That, the Lauryn Hill concert and …

7. I did my first interview with the woman who was my first gig experience!! Make sure you read my blog, Rejoice The Interview, for a snippet of the interview. Video coming soon.

9. Unto us a child was born. Ivy Sakeena Sangwa. It’s been over a month and I still haven’t met you. Well new year, new interactions I guess.

8. I bought my first Christmas tree 🎄!! I’ve lived in this house for 2yrs and 4 months and I finally have a tree. Here’s to more things in my house.

10. Well … 10 gave me happiness all throughout the year and kept me going. 10 is something I shall be keeping to myself. A little bit of mystery. Lol!

I’ve never done this before but I’ve assigned a song to my year but I think Hollyn’s Horizon definitely was my song of the year.

She’s a good contemporary gospel artist I recommend her for sure.

I hope you all have a great New Years, stay safe and stay tuned for the last blog of this series 😔. It’s been a good run.

Happy New Years 🥳🥳!!

Sending you all my love,

That’s all she wrote,

F A R I E L L E N.

Day 10: Something New

I really didn’t know what to write for this one but I had it on my list for this series so it honestly will be a few words of wisdom … I hope.

Throughout the years I feel like I have done the same thing over and over again. You know what I mean?

Like the situation and the people may be different but it’s the same scenarios all over again.

I feel like with all the blogs written under this series were all based on doing something new, which is what the New Years is about.

Starting afresh.

And I know a lot of people are calling bull because everyone always says ‘New Year, new me’ every year and do not change, but there are people who have changed, you just don’t know them.

So you set that resolution and you start doing something new but remember ..

New day, new you

Don’t rely on when the clock strikes midnight on New Year’s Day for you to create something new for you to do, or for you to become.

Everyday is a learning curve and everyday is an opportunity for us to start again and become new people.

Like I said, you don’t know if today is your last, so learn from your past (ooh, bars!)

Live everyday like it’s your last, but also live for the future. Find the balance between the two and live your life!

That is literally all she wrote

F A R I E L L E N.

Day 9: Stop. Breathe. Think

Inhale.

Exhale.

You ever stress so much that you just can’t breathe sometimes?

Like you can’t find your keys and you’re late for work, so you’re running around the house trying to find your keys in a hurry and you’re panicking to the point you get super frustrated and feel like the day is ruined and all of these thoughts are just running through your head and you can’t seem to stop them?!!

When these situations occur, the blood boiling, shorter breath, kind of situations you need to realise that this is how you’re feeling and react in a positive way.

Stop. Breathe. Think.

Something I find helps me a lot because I’m a natural stress head.

It’s not good for your health to be frustrated constantly, it’s bad for your heart, your blood pressure, all sorts!

These are the things I like to do when I’m angry, frustrated, bloods boiling and my breath is near enough to nonexistent:

Move away from the situation! That could be leaving the room to go elsewhere, if it’s someone, or something in that room, that’s making you feel that way, or leaving the library if it’s an assignment. Or even going on a bathroom or tea/coffee break if you’re at work. (If you’re allowed to do that).

That being said if it is someone who made you mad, go cool off elsewhere then come back when you’re not heated and talk about the situation. Not in a way that will make everything heated again though, because you’re just playing yourself. Just make sure the problem is 100% solved.

Don’t want to think everything is fine when you’re actually angry deep down.

Go for a walk! I love going for walks in general, it’s good exercise and the fresh air is great especially when you’re feeling negative emotions. But if you can go somewhere with great scenery. Makes you appreciate life a bit more.

For example, I live not too far from a country park, sometimes I go and walk around there, or for photography of the nature there, or feed the ducks (yes I’m that person [also don’t feed ducks bread please, you are killing them. Feed them wheat/corn/oats instead, it’s healthier for them, thanks]).

This just takes your mind off the situation that made you angry and you calm down.

Count to 10! Inhale … exhale .. 1 … repeat. That’s how you should count. Again because your concentrating on your breathing and the counting, you don’t have time to think about what you were mad about anymore.

Listen to calming music! For me it helps sometimes. I think instrumentals helps a little bit more than songs with lyrics because sometimes they can reflect how you’re feeling and just make you feel worse. Or sometimes you just want to think but can’t concentrate before of the words.

Do yoga! If you can. Don’t get angry and start doing yoga in a Costa or Starbucks, although Starbucks might love it, it’s probably best to do it in the right environment. But yoga is so calming, not gonna lie. Feel like a whole new person after yoga.

Plus you spend about 20 minutes trying to figure out how to do some next poses your body may not be used to, you’re not even angry anymore.

And lastly…

Just breathe. I have a few meditation apps (exploring which ones best for me) and it’s all about controlling your breathing, thinking about your breathing and calming yourself.

It’s similar to the counting but you have someone talking in the background with a calming voice, every so often.

I always feel better after meditation. Like a weight has been lifted, once my eyes reopen.

This went from resolutions for me that you could also use, to self-help guides, haha!

Anyway, I hope you’re all getting something from this series so far.

With that being said,

That’s all she wrote

F A R I E L L E. N

Day 5: Church Snob

Hi. My name is Farielle. And I’m a church snob.

Well .. I was.

Church snob; someone who forgets why they’re Christian, becomes judgy and only their church is doing things right.

I came to realise this when I was having a conversation about churches and I said “I can’t go to that church. They all go clubbing”. And he then pointed out that I was a snob. A religious snob.

Yes some churches are dodgy but once you’ve been to a church who’s doing right, you should be able to differentiate one that’s dodgy and one that’s really for God.

I became so religious that I wasn’t going to church for the right reasons anymore. I was going not only for the social aspect but because it became a habit. It became something I did because I ‘had to’.

That’s the worst time to be a Christian, when you become super judgy of everyone and everything.

Yes the bible says (paraphrasing) you shouldn’t judge others as God is the judge. But it also says you (Christians) should judge others unless you are doing the same thing you are judging others for then you have no right to judge.

I knew this. So I made it my mission not to judge others who were doing the same as me but I found another way to judge other so-called Christians.

And one of those ways was music.

Secular music is the devils music!

– Every older Christian ever!!

I know some secular music can be quite vulgar with a lot of swear words and talking about sex, drugs and all that jazz but there are some that has no vulgar words, is super clean and most likely about love.

As a singer-songwriter, and at the time Christian, I couldn’t decide if I was even allowed to write songs about love and how I was feeling, without including God or my relationship with him.

I didn’t even know if I could listen to one of my favourite contemporary musicians Hollyn because she sang Christian songs but she also sang love songs.

I played her music one time to someone from the church and they said “I don’t listen to that kind of music, I don’t think they’re proper Christians. Can never tell if they’re talking about God or not”

Another time someone said “Lecrae just said he doesn’t want to be classed as a gospel singer!” The horror!! Obviously I felt offended too. Why doesn’t he want to be classed as a gospel singer? Is he a sinner now?!

But I get it now. Not being limited to just one category/genre. The ability to sing songs that are about God and songs that aren’t just don’t go against your faith. He’s just a singer.

When I did my Interview with Rejoice I asked her how her song Enough clinked in with her relationship with God. And this was her response:

I’ll experience heartbreak, I’m still a christian, but I’ll write a song about heartbreak because that’s something that’s very relevant to me. Even in saying that, my relationship with God is very much present in most of the songs I write.

Just because a singer says they’re Christian but sings songs that are about anything other than God (within reason obviously) does not mean they’re not Christian.

As mentioned, at this moment I don’t class myself as a Christian because I feel like I don’t meet that standard and I haven’t felt that way since March. It doesn’t stop me from believing in God, because I still do. But what I’m going to tell you is

If you are a Christian, don’t lose yourself. Don’t become religious.

Jefferson Bethke once wrote a spoken word and titled it

Hate religion, love Jesus.

(It’s on YouTube). And it makes the most sense.

I recently had a catch up with a friend of mine and he said to me:

Let God’s word be God’s word, not churches word. God before everything, even church.

Don’t forget the church is just the people, so yes God before church.

So …

Resolution

For 2019 I will put God before everything the way I used to before I became religious.

For 2019 I’m going to hate religion and love Jesus. And try not to lose myself.

For 2019 I’m going to write more songs about how I’m feeling and not feel confused on whether I’m ‘allowed’ to write how I feel whether God is written in it or not.

Because at the end of the day I pray before I write therefore God is 100% present in the things I write. After all, it is He who gave me this gift in the first place.

And like the begining and the end of every Nollywood movie

To God be the Glory

And that’s all she wrote folks …

F A R I E L L E. N

Day 3: Identity Crisis

I’m 22. And it’s normal for me to sometimes question who I am, what makes me happy and what I really want to do.

I went through this weird identity crisis around this time last year, but due to being too busy to notice why I constantly felt drained and down, it only dawned on me when everything had died down.

During this time I was going through an identity crisis, as you do in your early 20’s, and I tried to find myself again not knowing I was putting my everything into everyone, and not having enough of ‘me’ for myself (go back and read Self Love blog).

I had to find myself any way that felt like me ‘doing what I wanted to do’ because I thought that this was me knowing who I was.

I’ll tell you it’s, been hard because I really didn’t know exactly how to get out of it and I thought I was going crazy. I though “people don’t go through these crisis until their in the 40’s, why me? Why now??”

So obviously, if you know me you know I like learning and researching when I have questions, (the psychology degree is making more sense now). So I googled!

Apparently it’s a thing, but not until the age of 25 years of age. The questions/statements I read on Independent correlated with what I was feeling.

What is my purpose? And how the hell do I figure that out?!! I want to explore the world but I need a good paying job and get my career going! What the hell do I do???

God gave us a purpose but doesn’t mean we immediately know what it is or how to get there. We have to do some major soul searching!

So after a lot of praying, conversations with a few people and a lot of googling, I was walking to the bus stop after doing an overnight shift when it randomly dawned on me what I really wanted to do. “Well it’s about bloody time”

Obviously I still have to figure out how to get there, how to travel and still have a good paying job, which now saying it out loud seems near enough impossible, but anything is possible.

Lesson:

Through this I learnt that … I’m boring. I had no hobbies! It was church, work, uni, work, church, maybe a hang out here or there and the cycle continued. I didn’t really have a life.

I learnt that because my life was boring with no hobbies, I waiting on peoples hobbies or for people to come and do things with me, but we all know that most of the time that means it never happens.

I learnt I need to grab life by the balls and go for things I want to do if people can come or not. Sometimes I don’t need to ask if anyone wants to ‘come with’ on my next venture.

Resolutions:

For 2019, I did come up with these myself but I also saw it on a Forbes article online. Here are the three that I feel like resonate with me.

Be creative! I’ve already mentioned how I’d be doing that on the day 2: self love.

To stop pleasing others! I don’t need to get validation from others to feel like I’m doing something right. What I need to realise is the life I have within myself and not look for it in others. Hence the ‘go for things I want to do’. I’d put that in the lessons section too.

Trying new things! The other month I went dancing! I enjoyed it so much but with uni I haven’t been able to go back but I do plan on continuing. I already have a list of things I want to try doing which makes 2019 even more exciting!!

So far this whole 12 days thing is going well. I’m enjoying sharing, I just hope people are finding some sort of relatability what I’ve written.

Until the next blog mates…

That’s all she wrote …

F A R I E L L E. N